You know the kind of laugh: a small reminder turns into a shared memory, and suddenly you're both laughing at something that happened years ago.
Making room for more of those moments doesn't need to cost anything. Start with your partner's sense of humor and one of these eight ideas.
1. Bring back a shared mishap
Mention the wrong turn, kitchen disaster or running joke you both still find funny. A few words may be enough; you don't always need to retell the whole story.
2. Find a wonderfully dated photo
An old hairstyle or carefully chosen outfit can become an affectionate trip down memory lane. Choose a picture your partner can enjoy too, and avoid turning the teasing into criticism of their appearance.
3. Tell them about a harmless adventure
Share a childhood scheme, a questionable college plan or an elaborate attempt to impress someone. Explaining what seemed so sensible at the time may be funnier than any polished punchline.
4. Revisit an awkward moment you're ready to laugh at
A misunderstanding can become a good story once the embarrassment has faded. Pick something that feels funny to you now. A painful experience doesn't need to become entertainment.
5. Choose a clip with them in mind
Send one comedy clip that fits their interests or reminds you of something they'd recognize. Let them watch when they have time, rather than expecting an immediate response in the middle of a busy day.
6. Send a meme that feels familiar
A joke about school, work or a shared habit may land because it captures something your partner knows well. A specific choice can also show that you were thinking about them.
7. Add some playfulness to a message
Recall a private joke, flirt a little or hint at a plan you're looking forward to. Match the tone to what your partner enjoys, and consider whether they can read a personal message privately.
8. Share the joke, even if your delivery isn't perfect
It might earn a laugh, a groan or a smile at how much you're enjoying it. You don't need professional timing to share something that amused you.
If a joke doesn't land, let it pass. The pleasure is in enjoying each other, without making either person perform or become the target of the joke.